Life Coach Skills

4 Mistakes to Avoid When Coaching

If you want to be an online coach, you are going to want to get as good as you can at your job before you start taking on clients. That means learning everything you can about coaching, developing a game plan for helping clients and being able to bounce back when someone isnt working properly. It also means making mistakes. Making mistakes is a vital growing part of any new endeavor and while you cant avoid all of them, there are four mistakes that you should avoid making as a new online coach, because it will kill your business before you even get started.

Doing Everything: People that do everything actually get very little done. If you are a writer, a coach, a YouTuber, a web developer and internet marketer and a wife and mother (or husband and father) you are going to find that all of your endeavors will suffer because you are trying to do too much. Just concentrate on a few things, and do them well.

Having a Crappy Website: Unfortunately, one of the other major problems that new coaches suffer from is a terrible website; many coaches seem to want to make the website themselves to save money but they end up with an amateur-looking site that is not going to attract a single person. Make sure that you spend some time and money making your website shine, because it is your face to the online world.

Concentrating Too Much on Training & Certification: Some coaches start their businesses and have enough money to invest and grow their coaching practice, but they end up spending everything they have on training and then wonder why they cant get anyone to sign up; thats not to say that training isnt important it definitely it but you want to do just enough training to get you started and invest in your website, equipment, tools and promoting your coaching business.

Not Having Money to Start & Grow Their Business: Finally, many coaches go into the business without any sort of nest egg to build their business with. Youll want some money to invest into your business, because the old adage is right: you have to spend money to make money. Youre going to want to have a little bit saved to build your coaching business as well as money saved to live on if you have decided to it full time.

Finding the Root Cause of Your Clients Obstacles

When you are helping a client, it can be easy to go with a quick solution to a problem. For a person that is overweight and wants to diet, creating a menu for them and monitoring their progress might seem like the right way to help them. Someone who struggles with low self-esteem might be helped by counseling sessions and confidence builders. But sometimes, the problem is deeper than something that can be helped with an easy solution. Sometimes, you have to find the root cause if you want to help someone. So, how do you go about finding the root cause of someones behaviors in sporadic coaching sessions,

Believing, Thinking & Acting

There is a specific process that people go through when they exhibit behaviors. It is the belief-thought-action cycle; understanding that cycle can be the key to solving their deeper issues, because often, a behavior that is destructive is linked to a belief that is driving it. You have to work your way back through this cycle in order to find out where a specific behavior or action comes from if you want to help your clients overcome these problems.

Actions: Actions seem like they are choices that we are making right there in that particular moment. But thats actually not the case at all. In fact, most of the behaviors we have and the actions that we take are already predetermined because of our thoughts. For example, if a client always clams up whenever they talk to a member of the opposite sex, and it is something they want to change, you have to look at the thoughts behind it.

Thoughts: The thoughts that you have are actually what drives that action. For example, this particular client might be thinking that they dont know what to do say, and they dont have the ability to talk to this person. Those thoughts drive the actions, but where do the thoughts come from,

Beliefs: Thats where the beliefs come in. You can actually trace behaviors all the way back to the beliefs that a person holds. In the case of our example, they might have the belief that they just arent good enough to talk to attractive members of the opposite sex. You have to help your clients figure out what these beliefs are, and then help them to evaluate them and decide if that particular belief is something they need to change or not.

What Makes a Good Coach? 5 Qualities of Great Coaches

When it comes to coaching people, there are a lot of good qualities that many coaches exhibit. In fact, every coach out there has some good qualities that you could list about them, but if you talk to enough coaches and you get to know the people at the top of the industry, you will notice a pattern starting to emerge. You will see that the most successful coaches actually share some of the same attributes. Here are five qualities that the greatest coaches have. See if you can develop these same attributes so that youll be in that elite club of successful coaches who are making a difference with their practice.

Self-Awareness: Self-awareness is a big one. You want to know yourself intimately because if you are still struggling with finding out who you are, you are going to have a major problem coaching other people.

Great Communication: The best coaches have great communication. They say the right things at the right times, and even more importantly, they listen. Listening is a skill that you want to develop and you want to understand and empathize with the people that youre listening to so that you can communicate not only what you want to say, but also exactly what they need.

Perceptiveness: Great coaches are perceptive. They notice things. Coaches can tell when someone is not as motivated as they used to be, or when someone is having a bad day. This perceptiveness comes in handy when getting to the root of a clients problem, and digging down into the beliefs and thoughts that drive a specific behavior.

Organized and Professional: Great coaches are not only professional, dressing the part, and always having the right attitude, they are also very organized. Even if you arent naturally an organized person, you should take a class or just learn to do better because organization is vital to running a good coaching business. Youll be collecting information about several different clients and helping them each with a different goal, and unless you are organized you are going to get confused and look unprofessional.

Flexible: The best coaches are also very flexible. They can easily bounce back when someone throws them a curve ball. If a particular style of coaching or method isnt working with a certain client, they are happy to change things up and allow them to learn from a completely different place, even if it isnt one that they are most comfortable with.